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How wonderful it is when life just changes on you.
How many of us have been in the middle of a career or in the middle of what you call a typical job that you knew you were over qualified for or just knew you didn’t belong, but just settled for just anyway? Was it just to make your life a bit simpler? I bet there are plenty of us who have made this mistake. Knowing we deserved better. Well, basically you were asking for trouble. I’ve learned a valuable lesson. Never settle for what you know you are better than, even in opportunities and yes even in this economy. Always go with your gut and trust your instinct. You have got to know what you are better than or better yet you have got to know what you are worth. No matter your circumstances, hold out, be patient and never be afraid to turn something down. The same holds true with relationships as someone somewhere, incapable of being true to themselves, will see your worth and not know what to do with it. Think about it. So what would they do? They will mistreat you, be threatened by you or just flat out try everything in their power to make you uncomfortable - hoping that one day you will go away and be forced to give up because they cannot face themselves. But God, no matter the mistakes, always has the better plan for you. For the one who holds true to himself. He sees all and with prayer and diligence, you will always win in the end. It’s all in how you handle things. Be of good courage and be confident knowing God has the better plan. And I’m hear to say you will find what’s BETTER! God Bless : )!

When Something Wonderful Happens!

When something wonderful happens to you, do you share your good news? Why do we hold back on letting people know what we’ve achieved? Is it because you think the other would think you are bragging? None of these things should be given a second thought to. Perception is everything and who you’re telling it to is even more important. However, don’t let that stop you from sharing your good news. Don’t you know that by sharing your good news you may be bringing hope to another? Being positive and inspiring is infectious. Every good news should be received as such, nothing more, nothing less. Good news should always be welcomed...I actually look for it!!. It is very important to my soul and can almost change things immediately. Your story can inspire someone, it can actually inspire them to try something new, something they’ve always wanted to do. So let’s celebrate ourselves in all our fabulousness and not keep quiet in what we actually came here to do. To HELP!. Let’s celebrate U!!

Standing Up For What Is Right

While many of us have gone through our tough times whether personally or professionally, I’ve learned to always stand up for what is right. No matter the consequences. You will always have your haters or people who will disagree or cannot see what you see as in most cases it is usually about you and the individual, but I believe everyone should have the ability to lose themselves to try and understand another - especially for the sake of what is right. You may not be going through what they are going through, but one day you may find yourself there. Complete selflessness is a beautiful way to be. That means endless growth and endless joy - it’s experiencing life to the very fullest. Open up your heart today, open up your mind as it is not always about you. When you realize that life is not about you, you will realize it is the first step to true happiness. Peace...

Smile anyway...

Today and every day, no matter what you are going through, no matter how hard and how painful it may be always find a way to smile anyway. Continually tell yourself that things are going to change. It will not stay like this - it cannot stay like this. BE faithful and be true to who you are...stand firm as it will never stay the same. No matter how dark the sun always comes through. Life is about trials and you want to pass them all with a smile...

Today be hopeful, be blessed!

Living To Make You Better.

I love interactions of any kind and genuinely love to make people smile, but what I most believe in is striving to always make you better. I believe in growth, constant growth and am always looking for the fresh way of thinking. We should all be evolving and moving toward the light. Changing the way you think and redirecting your focus is key. Sometimes it’s hard as we get caught up in the moment, especially if we are going through a struggle of some kind - but trying to see your way through by not sitting in it too long and finding peace and acceptance in it can help you get out of it. This is why we have the man above, to look to for guidance and for help. He helps to guide us and see our way through so that we can live more toward the future. Today put a smile on your face even if you have nothing to smile about. Think differently and become the better you.

Saying Goodbye To Michael...

Today, brought us all to terms with life and suddenly death of our favorite icon of all time Michael Jackson. I felt suddenly shocked when I first learned of the news, hoping and praying it was all not true...despite not hearing from him in years, feeling left out of touch with his life. As I drove home my husband gave me an account of all the latest news, allegations on the telephone. However, It wasn’t until hours later when the news was finally confirmed when listening to 107.5 right here in NYC is when it all became true to form. They played everything from when he was a little boy through his teenage years and that’s when the tears came. He made an impact

The Sun Always Shines Thru...

Pretty much the entire month of June has left us with nothing but showers showers and more showers, but in every storm there’s always light and it always comes thru in the end. Light will win every time. There are seasons of every kind, but without the rain you will never see what you need to see, you may need a minute to slow down and think on the things that are important, make changes, make moves and re-adjust your thinking. Take advantage of every storm and you will always come out higher and brighter, than where you were before.

Be blessed today!!!

Be Determined

There's no question these are trying and uncertain times, but stay strong, stay focused and don't sacrifice self . Play this game of life with integrity and grace as we remember we are moved by our faith. We have to be determined to come through on top no matter what is going on around us. We should know we have to do our part, dig our heels in with an attitude of faith, endurance and persevere...I promise you will win every time. Be determined today, face your challenges head on and come out untainted with a smile.

It’s Friday!!

Ok so the rain has been with us for what seems like eternity, but here are a few ideas you can get into for the weekend: This is a great time to take in a few museums, we only live in the most cultural diverse city in the world and the Harlem Museum is a great museum to take in on Sunday’s as they hold great exhibits for everyone. The Apollo Theatre is celebrating there 75th Anniversary and tickets go on sale for the Broadway play “The Wiz” this weekend. Don’t let the rain get you down, get up, get out and smile today...

What Are You Called To Do?

In todays economy things can look grim, companies are not hiring and people are expected to hang on and not let go to what they have. But I see differently. Through every valley comes the birth of something new this is the time to actually go out step out on faith and find your purpose. I believe it is the time where good things will happen. Take advantage of every opportunity that is presented to you during this time and step out on faith. A voice may whisper “you must be out of your mind” “you’re not capable of this” know it is the voice of fear - but there’s another voice God’s and he says “Fear not for I am with you” “Be not dismayed for I am your God” “ I will strengthen you and I will help you”. When you put God first and you are listening to his word there is nothing than can stop you. Think about it, pray about it, listen for his voice then DO IT! So what are you called to do?...

Keeping Your Eyes On The Prize...

Nothing lasts forever. Are you going through a difficult time in your life right now? At work, in a relationship or even lost your job? Well every day there is an opportunity for the breakthrough. It is easy to get discouraged, become weak or get angry over a situation we cannot change - but if we turn our backs on, give up on or try and handle in the wrong way it may never go away...and if it does it will only come back in another form. Running from or trying to find an outlet for your problem will never help you nor will you ever get the lesson in it. There’s a breakthrough in it for you, there is a gift waiting for you on the other side of your problem so stick it out and find out what it is. When you focus your attention on your goal through your problem by handling correctly and positively you will eventually find the breakthrough. Don’t give up! God is on the other side waiting for you to come through! Cheering you on! along side you as he never left you all along. He’s watched how you’ve handled and you will be rewarded. When you handle incorrectly it will linger, it’s like unfinished business...but if you handle positively, with a spirit of strength you will end up finding the prize...

Thinking positive and making it happen...

Today think positively about your every move, your every action - alter your thoughts and make them a reality. Not only is thinking positively important, but you have to become POSITIVE - it should be a part of you in order to make it happen. Don’t think and spend time on things you cannot change. Make and create how you want to live and make it come true. Time is your most valuable asset and should be used wisely. Let no one, no one stop you from moving in the right direction...pray and ask God for strength you will soon see how your life will change. Be positive, think positive and make it happen!!! No one can stop you when God is in it.

Releasing What Binds You...

Life has always been a breath of fresh air for me! Noticing and seeing the change in your day to day can bring you so much joy, so much peace. Noticing your moment is so very important, however recognizing when something is new and when something has passed is key. How will you see the new in anything if not trying to breakthrough the thing that holds you, the thing that binds you. It could be a new way of thinking, a new outlook or fresh new way of seeing things. Whatever is binding you today, holding you today try and find the truth in it release it, then set it free - I guarantee you will see the new in life. Have you ever stopped to take a look at the trees...the leaves in how they move there’s no hold on it, there’s nothing obstructing it’s growth to freedom. That is the way you should see your life. The only thing that should ever hold you bind you up is the truth. Allowing your heavenly father to carry you through the right direction will lead you to great freedom and an enormous amount of peace. Free to live, let go and be free to find the new...

Love life, reach and struggle through to find the new.

Peace to you all.

Disappointments...

We have all been a victim of life’s disappointments and have all been taken by surprise of others actions, but do not be afraid of what is to come. SHAKE it off and know that God is FAITHFUL as it only means you have something special that others are paying attention to. It is hard sometimes to make your way back to the top after being tripped up by life’s surprises - it sends us for a blow, and leaves us feeling bewildered, but you can make it back by keeping your eyes and ears fixed only to him. Stay focused on what is real, stay focused on what is right push yourself and be FREE IN THAT, be free in knowing great things will come.

“ I know the plans I have for you; plans to prosper you and not harm you...(Isaiah).

BE BLESSED TODAY!!

Enjoying the Memorial Day Weekend.

Memorial day weekend begins tomorrow - kick yours off by planning to enjoy every moment. Go to a park, a museum or take in a new restaurant. There’s so much going on around the city and plenty of new sites and museums to see in Harlem NY. Plan on catching up with an old friend or laying around and just enjoying some time alone. But more importantly take the time to look around watch closely on how beautiful life is. There’s peace in the world. Make sure nothing hampers with your spirit this weekend and forever. Protect the beauty in you...

Have a happy and safe memorial day weekend!

Celebrating Birthdays...

Your birthday is the day God chose to bring you into this world. It is a celebration of life! A celebration of hope! And each time every year you make the decision to make that year the best it can absolutely be...only to bring you closer to your destiny. This gift of life, every year brings growth and achievement. Keeping with your purpose. Today, this day, I’d like to celebrate the birth of my son Jalen. Happy 16th Birthday Jalen! Keep searching, keep looking for your purpose...I have no doubt you will find,. Keep walking confidently into the light by keeping that same warm beautiful spirit.

I love you!

Happy Birthday...

Being Encouraged...

We are all waiting on changes in our lives in some form or another, whether it’s with a new job, a new home, our finances, etc. Whatever you’re waiting on today you have got to know that change will come and your approach should be working toward making that change happen. This also requires not only working towards, but also knowing when to stop, look around do nothing and wait on the Lord. Your time is coming and he won’t allow you to suffer in the situation you’re in. Your attitude should be looking for the change...every day, each and every day look for the change while knowing when it does come it will be at the right time. Change your attitude today, smile and be encouraged by knowing that your time will come!!!

Where Strength and Joy are found...

I read something today that overtook me with an enormous amount of joy and an overwhelming amount of strength and realized it all came from within me...can you imagine that? It all came from just thinking on the lord and thinking of every single time I overcame a problem or a bad situation - I remembered it was all from taking the time to dwell on him and all his goodness and his faithfulness then you begin to realize his promises - his promise to manifest himself when you draw near to him. He’ll fill you with his joy and strength so that you can and will overcome anything! Today and any day. Any obstacle! Immediately whatever you’re going through begins to look small. I’m sharing this truth with you, so that you know where your strength and joy are found...it is all found within you. Hang in there!!!

Staying prayerful...

Don’t ever give up on your goals and dreams...whatever you may be going through today in the midst of it all always remain prayerful and remember God is good and faithful. He will give you his promises and will never forget about you, but is all a matter of time...it is all in his time. His promises are true and is what you should stand on remember always- he will never let you down. NEVER! Wait on him, rest in him and be assured in him.

Never Looking Back...

We have all made mistakes in life, said the wrong things, did the wrong things wishing we can all take them back and start all over. Making mistakes of any kind, from the smallest to the most highest is all a blessing in disguise if looked at the right way. When you stop and think about it, it is all an opportunity to help you grow, become wiser and move ahead. The only way to make something wrong, is by making it right by stopping to get the lesson. Claim it all as an opportunity to study, figure out and move ahead. When you take the time to figure out why? You will never take the time to look back...

Loving Them Anyway

We have all been faced with others trying to bring us down, trying to hurt us or just plain old not wanting to see us happy and is all for no reason. They try everything they can to try and push our buttons and bring out the worse in us as it is them who is fighting with themselves. It’s difficult and hurtful to try and understand, but by not retaliating or coming down to their level you not only just won but you allow them the opportunity to take a look at themselves - which is what they’re trying not to do. When you return the hate, you lose! Again all very hard, very very hard : ) It takes strength to endure as this is something you can be faced with every day. What I try to do and remember (as I was so graciously reminded of by my husband) is to remember the grace Christ carried with him when all were hating on him, similarly that’s what we have to do. Think of how you will look when you come out of this and think of what they will get in return! There is no other retaliation like the lords so try and love anyway ...Have a beautiful day!!!

Believing

Believing is one of the most powerful words in history. It’s one of my favorite words!! It encompasses so many things, but only word comes to my mind when I hear the word “believe” and that is POWER. Believing gives you hope, believing makes things happen and brings about change. Just believing that things will change or that something is going to happen, actually makes it happen! I’m not sure if most know this. Just your belief alone can make things change! But how far and for how long do you carry this belief? Believing is consistent. You can’t believe for one day or for one week, it’s just not enough. It will never be enough. What makes belief consistent is the relationship you have with God, with Christ. Depending on how close you are to him will make believing permanent in your life. It will never leave you and will always strengthen your faith. It all depends on you...

Love you all!!

Knowing When To Take Risks.

We have all found ourselves in situations and places where we’ve all asked ourselves “should I” or “shouldn’t I”. Depending on what the risk is and having the ability to look long term, you gotta know when it’s okay to step out on faith. When you know yourself completely and have discovered and recognized that voice within, when it speaks to you you gotta know when to move. You wouldn’t want to miss out on the opportunity. You know that the holy spirit speaks to us at different times, however when you’re in tuned with yourself, I know you won’t miss it! Think on it, pray on it then MOVE.

Show A Lil Self Control!

As you all know patience is key and by having self control and maintaining who you are will always bring you over the top! All the time! Patience brings growth and allows beauty to overcome you...inside and out. Let it have it’s perfect work. Be patient and selective. If you give in to instant gratification you’ll lose.

Be blessed, be wise and be beautiful...always

Spring's Here!

Spring is here everyone time to get out catch the latest plays and hit up your favorite museum and event parties. When spring arrives it reminds me to continue on living the very same way we have been, if you’re happy with, but taking it all to a new level. Going to new restaurants, going to see a new exhibition, eating right and living healthy. No matter the state you’re in, get out there and see what’s in store for you - get on the internet and see what’s going on around in your town. I’m sure most of you are already out there living it up, but have learned often when you end up doing something new and different, you discover something new about yourself each time, gain a new way of life and brings you closer to your destiny. God has a funny way of bringing it all to you! So enjoy the day today, be bright and choose always to try something new.

Beginning A New Day

Mondays can be so hard to rise up and go off into the day - leaving behind you all from the weekend gone by either spent with family and friends or maybe just some quiet time alone with yourself. Start it by waking up early grabbing your favorite cup of coffee or tea and having some me time before heading out. Pray and ask God for the strength to begin a new day in the right way. Slowly is always best for Mondays : ) Have a good day and thank God for the gift of today.

The Element of Surprise

Surprises are sudden, they take your breath away and leaves you with such warm emotions. How can one minute things seem to be blah, never ending, never changing and in one day, or in even one small minute everything changes. Your life changes and everything is new. Well this is how you should see your life when you head out every day. It is that sudden as you never know what is coming, what is on its way and what is lurking around the corner. Every day you should be looking for it - for this new change, for this new life welcoming and preparing for it. When you see with hope, knowing it will come, then it will certainly come.

Be encouraged by the element of surprise...nothing ever stays the same!

When To Let Go

How do you know when to let go of something you want? It could be anything, a new home, a new car, a new job or a new relationship or one in which you are in. The list can go on. We all have needs we would love to be met right away and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to see them all come to light. But how do you know when to let go, well it’s all about how you see life. I’ve not only learned but have discovered the truth in this topic. So here’s the truth after putting one hundred and fifty percent into something you want, giving it your absolute all, your every thought and focus there comes a time when you have to let go. Yes do your part but you have to know when your part is over. When you let go is when it actually happens. If it doesn’t happen then it simply means it wasn’t yours or wasn’t for you to receive. What he has is something better for you...that’s why you didn’t get it. Just wait and see : ) Here’s the good news it will ALWAYS BE SOMETHING BETTER. Look around you, look at life, how does it evolve it evolves naturally correct. Natural is permanent. Pushing for something even when you get it may not be around for long as now you have to put in the extra work to keep it. Here’s the light guys while you are pushing for something stop for a minute look around you and see if there’s something or someone else pushing with you. See if Christ is pushing with you. If it’s only you it’s not for you. Lay in his arms today and you will see what I mean - Matthew 11:30 “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light”

Celebrating A New Life

Hey Yall! It’s time to get out there meet greet and network around your town. Today be open to new new possibilities. It’s good Friday. If you’re not having dinner with family or going to Church or even meditating on your bible today, contact one of your girls or one of your guy friends and catch up over brunch, dinner or maybe even go to a cool lounge. You gotta be open in order to have a new birth in life. If you’re in New York, for this Sunday brunch I would recommend “Uptown Restaurant”, located on 1576 3rd Avenue, between 88th & 89th street. The pancakes are to die for, trust me they melt in your mouth I’ve had the pleasure of tasting...blueberry, strawberry and even raspberry - the eggs are just as delicious as you get your choice of Mimosa and other favorite drinks all for $15 bucks. You will enjoy. A part of having hope, as noted in yesterday’s blog : ) is always being open to new possibilities, always looking to see what’s next, instead of settling down in the one you are in. You have to create the life you want to live. You can take walks alone, take a beautiful drive out by yourself and sit by a park. One of my favorite things to do is to take a drive down the West Side Highway and look at the lights, water and sit by the park with a glass of wine. So while enjoying today and this weekend, Easter Sunday, keep in mind Christ died for us so get out there and see what he has for you!

Finding & Having Hope

In today’s world when looking around you, there is so much going on, so many discouragements and so many things to bring you down. It can make you a bit sad and leave you feeling overwhelmed and tired. But don’t allow it. You will always find hope in holding on to the things you believe in...your standards, your morals, your beliefs and knowing always what is right. Never compromise that for anyone or for any situation. Maintain who you are by protecting yourself always by the things you know is right. Hope is not sacrificing yourself, hope is always looking up and searching for what’s new, what’s better, hope is not lowering yourself for anyone. Your future will always be bright when you hold on to what’s right. Every now and again we slip due to frustration and anger, but catch yourself before you allow it to sacrifice who you are, and apologize right away. It’s not for them but is for you. Always believe there’s a better way, always know the next day is a new day, a new beginning to new possibilities. Hope is living the right way, doing the right thing and being mindful of the things you say despite the circumstances and despite what others have done to you. By holding on and maintaining who you are will supernaturally give you an extra pep in your step and will forever build hope and joy...I promise it won’t leave U.

Make Today Count

Today before heading out and starting your day begin with a small prayer, thanking God for the day. Ask him to help you make today matter, make today count by doing something to inspire yourself and others. Sit, meditate and think about what you really want out of life or if you’re living that life already. Most of us are working on, but in the moment of today, be grateful and be happy. If you can envision it, then you’ve already accomplished it - now you just have to put in the work to get it and it will happen. I know it will. For today, smile, look around you and be thankful. Reach out to one of your girls and spread that joy that you have...it is contagious. Ask yourself, what can I do today to make me happy? THEN DO IT!!! Be happy, be hopeful and be grateful. Your blessings Will Come...

Making Some Alone Time!

Life is so great to share and spend with others, to give of yourself, reach out and see how all are doing. Being there for one another is so very important and essential as there is hope and love in extending yourself to others. But how often do you spend time alone? And I do not mean being physically alone, but spending time with your soul, listening to what your heart is telling you. Listening to how you truly feel about a situation or just your day to day, without trying to escape or forget it. Most answers are found in being alone. However discovered most people are afraid of being alone, thinking they are inadequate or not complete if someone is not around them. It is so not true. When you spend time alone you have the opportunity to build on yourself, it gets you ready for what’s next, what is to come. Please do not be afraid of being alone, you can’t run from yourself and is vital to a healthy relationship. Before you can spend time with another, you need to know how to spend time with yourself first. Don’t you know how beautiful you are? I cannot tell you how much you are missing by not trying to figure what makes you you. The keys to life are found in you, the answer to everything is found in you. Dive into yourself today and don’t be afraid of what you might see, embrace it, make peace with it and ultimately try and understand it. Listening to yourself every day will give you peace, hope and love as he is found in you...it is where he lives and it is where he speaks to U.

It’s All About You

The approach you have on life can make a huge difference in your life. The way you think and the way you choose to live...deal with things, can have a resounding effect on the way things will turn out for you. I’m not sure if most have realized, but I’m here to share the good news : ) How you choose to live is the result of how things will work out for you. It’s as simple as that. Life is simple, life is pure and not at all complicated - people choose to complicate based on what they think they want at the time, not realizing the rationalization of their behavior. By rationalizing is only complicating and making things worse, not for anyone else but for yourself. You can’t run from yourself, when you try to, you only keep meeting up with yourself for the very first time each time. Look within the answer is actually inside you. There’s nothing wrong with stopping and asking yourself ”is this the way I want to live”. I choose to live life through fresh eyes - always clean - always new. It’s never too late to see. There are no grey areas in life. There’s only black or white. Right or wrong. Honest or dishonest. Live a clean life and be careful about what you choose to do with what’s right in front of you. Confusing things...we all know what and who the art of confusion is, so stay clear away from. Tomorrow morning when you rise, choose to see the world with fresh, clean honest eyes...live it and become it.

Friendships

What does friends mean to you? And how do you choose them? We all know the importance of friendships and how they can impact your world. But how true are you to your friend? It is your role you should pay attention to, not theirs. What do you give to that person and not what you can get from them. You know we have all gone through those friendships where they were only in to gain. They were only interested in what they can get from you, either your knowledge, your contacts or maybe even just to find your weakness, then hurt you. Awful isn’t it. Do you think they got over on you? Do you think they took something away from you? No way! The only person they slighted were themselves but usually they never see right away. Everything you do to a person, if it’s for your own selfish gain, will only be temporary. Only honest relationships last. Each time you came across someone like that, who played that kind of role in your life, initially yes you felt disappointed, hurt of course. However, I’ve learned to see the blessing - thank you God for revealing them to me. It’s better to know then not to know. You could have gone on thinking they were still that person who you thought they were. Aren’t you glad you found out : )? Well thats what you pay attention to, not what you think they took from you. So now you choose differently. They actually missed out on the beautiful person that you are. I’ve been blessed to find and still have the most wonderful friends in my life, some I just met, some I met through a friend, who is no longer my friend and some I’ve had for years. My spiritual sisters. Only for a reason right. I’ve learned to choose friends who are just like me. My girls who I know has got my back and I theirs, can call me anytime...even if I’m married. Call. It is important for me to be there. Whether you were one of those people who inflicted pain or one of those people who received it. Forgiveness and self checking is a must. Don’t be afraid to check yourself. You will grow when you do. Today’s blog goes out to my girls Victoria, Andrea, Cozette and most importantly Nicole thank you for the support! You know what I am speaking of and am truly grateful.

In The Storms Of The Unknown

While I’m sure many of you have been in seasons where you have gone through the worst of times at work or in your profession. Everything all of a sudden seems dark, grim as everything suddenly changes. Either a new boss or co-worker comes on board and is trying to make your life a living hell. Either to get you fired or make you out to be a problem when your not. For what reason? No reason at all. Just because they don’t understand you, your peace or your joy in essence what makes you you - you embody something they don’t have and makes them angry when they can’t find it. This quest to find it is to ultimately make you lose control and therefore end up quitting or walking around with attitude. Don’t give them that. During this time, hold on, hold on to yourself and what you represent as a person. You cannot make anyone take you outside of you. Deal with and don’t try to ignore by staying prayerful. Remain professional and be mindful of your words and the responses you choose to make. The best of characters are built during this time, this time of the unknown. Trust God and know there has to be storms as he allows in order to take you to the next stage in life. Your gift is around the corner. Whatever or whoever you believe in just know God is watching your every move, how you respond and how you chose to handle it. There’s only one way of handling and that is the right way with grace. Past this test and come out on top. Remember you will make it through the storms of time as the other side is so bright and so right.

Solitude

Life has always been a journey in search of truth, I have always looked for the truth in just about everything I’ve experienced. Every emotion, every thought and every disappointment is used to figure out why? Why has this happened? What should I be focusing or paying attention to? Have you ever been to a new place in life and suddenly your whole lifestyle has changed? Found yourself in a new job or a new business venture and suddenly everyone around you, although physically there, you see no connection with. You’re now at a stage in life where any random foolish talking with just about anyone simply just won’t do and as a result see as a waste of time so you’d rather be alone? Don’t force it if it’s not there. Everything you do in life should matter, everything you share and say in life should matter or have some form of validity. Real talk is not only just a saying. I realized that through the struggle of finding out why, in those times of feeling isolated like your somewhere out there in the wilderness alone, use that time to sit meditate pray and ask God why as he is with you and therefore are not alone. Sometimes God places you in conditions like this to prepare you for what he has next for you. He is taking you to a new level in life, that next stage of what he has planned for you. Stay focused and see it all as POSITIVE, think positive. What seems to be an uncomfortable position, see as that next big surprise that’s just about to come your way. You should always try and see it as the best thing that is about to happen. It is always for the best and is not a mistake, look for him and the answer during this time. Trust that everything that is happening is not by coincidence. Although it’s a dark place, struggle through to see the light. There is always light in every darkness. Try and find it, you will grow through it. I’ve learned to just accept what is and wait for that light to shine through.