Loving Them Anyway

We have all been faced with others trying to bring us down, trying to hurt us or just plain old not wanting to see us happy and is all for no reason. They try everything they can to try and push our buttons and bring out the worse in us as it is them who is fighting with themselves. It’s difficult and hurtful to try and understand, but by not retaliating or coming down to their level you not only just won but you allow them the opportunity to take a look at themselves - which is what they’re trying not to do. When you return the hate, you lose! Again all very hard, very very hard : ) It takes strength to endure as this is something you can be faced with every day. What I try to do and remember (as I was so graciously reminded of by my husband) is to remember the grace Christ carried with him when all were hating on him, similarly that’s what we have to do. Think of how you will look when you come out of this and think of what they will get in return! There is no other retaliation like the lords so try and love anyway ...Have a beautiful day!!!

Believing

Believing is one of the most powerful words in history. It’s one of my favorite words!! It encompasses so many things, but only word comes to my mind when I hear the word “believe” and that is POWER. Believing gives you hope, believing makes things happen and brings about change. Just believing that things will change or that something is going to happen, actually makes it happen! I’m not sure if most know this. Just your belief alone can make things change! But how far and for how long do you carry this belief? Believing is consistent. You can’t believe for one day or for one week, it’s just not enough. It will never be enough. What makes belief consistent is the relationship you have with God, with Christ. Depending on how close you are to him will make believing permanent in your life. It will never leave you and will always strengthen your faith. It all depends on you...

Love you all!!

Knowing When To Take Risks.

We have all found ourselves in situations and places where we’ve all asked ourselves “should I” or “shouldn’t I”. Depending on what the risk is and having the ability to look long term, you gotta know when it’s okay to step out on faith. When you know yourself completely and have discovered and recognized that voice within, when it speaks to you you gotta know when to move. You wouldn’t want to miss out on the opportunity. You know that the holy spirit speaks to us at different times, however when you’re in tuned with yourself, I know you won’t miss it! Think on it, pray on it then MOVE.

Show A Lil Self Control!

As you all know patience is key and by having self control and maintaining who you are will always bring you over the top! All the time! Patience brings growth and allows beauty to overcome you...inside and out. Let it have it’s perfect work. Be patient and selective. If you give in to instant gratification you’ll lose.

Be blessed, be wise and be beautiful...always

Spring's Here!

Spring is here everyone time to get out catch the latest plays and hit up your favorite museum and event parties. When spring arrives it reminds me to continue on living the very same way we have been, if you’re happy with, but taking it all to a new level. Going to new restaurants, going to see a new exhibition, eating right and living healthy. No matter the state you’re in, get out there and see what’s in store for you - get on the internet and see what’s going on around in your town. I’m sure most of you are already out there living it up, but have learned often when you end up doing something new and different, you discover something new about yourself each time, gain a new way of life and brings you closer to your destiny. God has a funny way of bringing it all to you! So enjoy the day today, be bright and choose always to try something new.

Beginning A New Day

Mondays can be so hard to rise up and go off into the day - leaving behind you all from the weekend gone by either spent with family and friends or maybe just some quiet time alone with yourself. Start it by waking up early grabbing your favorite cup of coffee or tea and having some me time before heading out. Pray and ask God for the strength to begin a new day in the right way. Slowly is always best for Mondays : ) Have a good day and thank God for the gift of today.

The Element of Surprise

Surprises are sudden, they take your breath away and leaves you with such warm emotions. How can one minute things seem to be blah, never ending, never changing and in one day, or in even one small minute everything changes. Your life changes and everything is new. Well this is how you should see your life when you head out every day. It is that sudden as you never know what is coming, what is on its way and what is lurking around the corner. Every day you should be looking for it - for this new change, for this new life welcoming and preparing for it. When you see with hope, knowing it will come, then it will certainly come.

Be encouraged by the element of surprise...nothing ever stays the same!

When To Let Go

How do you know when to let go of something you want? It could be anything, a new home, a new car, a new job or a new relationship or one in which you are in. The list can go on. We all have needs we would love to be met right away and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to see them all come to light. But how do you know when to let go, well it’s all about how you see life. I’ve not only learned but have discovered the truth in this topic. So here’s the truth after putting one hundred and fifty percent into something you want, giving it your absolute all, your every thought and focus there comes a time when you have to let go. Yes do your part but you have to know when your part is over. When you let go is when it actually happens. If it doesn’t happen then it simply means it wasn’t yours or wasn’t for you to receive. What he has is something better for you...that’s why you didn’t get it. Just wait and see : ) Here’s the good news it will ALWAYS BE SOMETHING BETTER. Look around you, look at life, how does it evolve it evolves naturally correct. Natural is permanent. Pushing for something even when you get it may not be around for long as now you have to put in the extra work to keep it. Here’s the light guys while you are pushing for something stop for a minute look around you and see if there’s something or someone else pushing with you. See if Christ is pushing with you. If it’s only you it’s not for you. Lay in his arms today and you will see what I mean - Matthew 11:30 “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light”

Celebrating A New Life

Hey Yall! It’s time to get out there meet greet and network around your town. Today be open to new new possibilities. It’s good Friday. If you’re not having dinner with family or going to Church or even meditating on your bible today, contact one of your girls or one of your guy friends and catch up over brunch, dinner or maybe even go to a cool lounge. You gotta be open in order to have a new birth in life. If you’re in New York, for this Sunday brunch I would recommend “Uptown Restaurant”, located on 1576 3rd Avenue, between 88th & 89th street. The pancakes are to die for, trust me they melt in your mouth I’ve had the pleasure of tasting...blueberry, strawberry and even raspberry - the eggs are just as delicious as you get your choice of Mimosa and other favorite drinks all for $15 bucks. You will enjoy. A part of having hope, as noted in yesterday’s blog : ) is always being open to new possibilities, always looking to see what’s next, instead of settling down in the one you are in. You have to create the life you want to live. You can take walks alone, take a beautiful drive out by yourself and sit by a park. One of my favorite things to do is to take a drive down the West Side Highway and look at the lights, water and sit by the park with a glass of wine. So while enjoying today and this weekend, Easter Sunday, keep in mind Christ died for us so get out there and see what he has for you!

Finding & Having Hope

In today’s world when looking around you, there is so much going on, so many discouragements and so many things to bring you down. It can make you a bit sad and leave you feeling overwhelmed and tired. But don’t allow it. You will always find hope in holding on to the things you believe in...your standards, your morals, your beliefs and knowing always what is right. Never compromise that for anyone or for any situation. Maintain who you are by protecting yourself always by the things you know is right. Hope is not sacrificing yourself, hope is always looking up and searching for what’s new, what’s better, hope is not lowering yourself for anyone. Your future will always be bright when you hold on to what’s right. Every now and again we slip due to frustration and anger, but catch yourself before you allow it to sacrifice who you are, and apologize right away. It’s not for them but is for you. Always believe there’s a better way, always know the next day is a new day, a new beginning to new possibilities. Hope is living the right way, doing the right thing and being mindful of the things you say despite the circumstances and despite what others have done to you. By holding on and maintaining who you are will supernaturally give you an extra pep in your step and will forever build hope and joy...I promise it won’t leave U.

Make Today Count

Today before heading out and starting your day begin with a small prayer, thanking God for the day. Ask him to help you make today matter, make today count by doing something to inspire yourself and others. Sit, meditate and think about what you really want out of life or if you’re living that life already. Most of us are working on, but in the moment of today, be grateful and be happy. If you can envision it, then you’ve already accomplished it - now you just have to put in the work to get it and it will happen. I know it will. For today, smile, look around you and be thankful. Reach out to one of your girls and spread that joy that you have...it is contagious. Ask yourself, what can I do today to make me happy? THEN DO IT!!! Be happy, be hopeful and be grateful. Your blessings Will Come...

Making Some Alone Time!

Life is so great to share and spend with others, to give of yourself, reach out and see how all are doing. Being there for one another is so very important and essential as there is hope and love in extending yourself to others. But how often do you spend time alone? And I do not mean being physically alone, but spending time with your soul, listening to what your heart is telling you. Listening to how you truly feel about a situation or just your day to day, without trying to escape or forget it. Most answers are found in being alone. However discovered most people are afraid of being alone, thinking they are inadequate or not complete if someone is not around them. It is so not true. When you spend time alone you have the opportunity to build on yourself, it gets you ready for what’s next, what is to come. Please do not be afraid of being alone, you can’t run from yourself and is vital to a healthy relationship. Before you can spend time with another, you need to know how to spend time with yourself first. Don’t you know how beautiful you are? I cannot tell you how much you are missing by not trying to figure what makes you you. The keys to life are found in you, the answer to everything is found in you. Dive into yourself today and don’t be afraid of what you might see, embrace it, make peace with it and ultimately try and understand it. Listening to yourself every day will give you peace, hope and love as he is found in you...it is where he lives and it is where he speaks to U.

It’s All About You

The approach you have on life can make a huge difference in your life. The way you think and the way you choose to live...deal with things, can have a resounding effect on the way things will turn out for you. I’m not sure if most have realized, but I’m here to share the good news : ) How you choose to live is the result of how things will work out for you. It’s as simple as that. Life is simple, life is pure and not at all complicated - people choose to complicate based on what they think they want at the time, not realizing the rationalization of their behavior. By rationalizing is only complicating and making things worse, not for anyone else but for yourself. You can’t run from yourself, when you try to, you only keep meeting up with yourself for the very first time each time. Look within the answer is actually inside you. There’s nothing wrong with stopping and asking yourself ”is this the way I want to live”. I choose to live life through fresh eyes - always clean - always new. It’s never too late to see. There are no grey areas in life. There’s only black or white. Right or wrong. Honest or dishonest. Live a clean life and be careful about what you choose to do with what’s right in front of you. Confusing things...we all know what and who the art of confusion is, so stay clear away from. Tomorrow morning when you rise, choose to see the world with fresh, clean honest eyes...live it and become it.

Friendships

What does friends mean to you? And how do you choose them? We all know the importance of friendships and how they can impact your world. But how true are you to your friend? It is your role you should pay attention to, not theirs. What do you give to that person and not what you can get from them. You know we have all gone through those friendships where they were only in to gain. They were only interested in what they can get from you, either your knowledge, your contacts or maybe even just to find your weakness, then hurt you. Awful isn’t it. Do you think they got over on you? Do you think they took something away from you? No way! The only person they slighted were themselves but usually they never see right away. Everything you do to a person, if it’s for your own selfish gain, will only be temporary. Only honest relationships last. Each time you came across someone like that, who played that kind of role in your life, initially yes you felt disappointed, hurt of course. However, I’ve learned to see the blessing - thank you God for revealing them to me. It’s better to know then not to know. You could have gone on thinking they were still that person who you thought they were. Aren’t you glad you found out : )? Well thats what you pay attention to, not what you think they took from you. So now you choose differently. They actually missed out on the beautiful person that you are. I’ve been blessed to find and still have the most wonderful friends in my life, some I just met, some I met through a friend, who is no longer my friend and some I’ve had for years. My spiritual sisters. Only for a reason right. I’ve learned to choose friends who are just like me. My girls who I know has got my back and I theirs, can call me anytime...even if I’m married. Call. It is important for me to be there. Whether you were one of those people who inflicted pain or one of those people who received it. Forgiveness and self checking is a must. Don’t be afraid to check yourself. You will grow when you do. Today’s blog goes out to my girls Victoria, Andrea, Cozette and most importantly Nicole thank you for the support! You know what I am speaking of and am truly grateful.